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University of Colorado Denver | Women & Gender Ceter
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That's What She Said


There's this thing that happens when women speak,

And it happens now even though women can vote,

Even though laws prevent sex discrimination,

Even though most of us believe in the importance of telling girls they can do anything boys can.

Women's words enter the universe, mix with all the things we cannot see like oxygen and carbon and unchecked sexism, until they reach their destination, sounding like something else entirely. They sound shrill. Dramatic. Questionable.

But don't believe that last paragraph. A woman wrote it.

Believe this, because Damon Young wrote it, and he's a dude:

Generally speaking, we (men) do not believe things when they’re told to us by women. Well, women other than our mothers or teachers or any other woman who happens to be an established authority figure. Do we think women are pathological liars? No. But, does it generally take longer for us to believe something if a woman tells it to us than it would if a man told us the exact same thing? Definitely!

That's What She Said is about fixing that.

Our organizers collect stories from women of experiences they had that were based on gender (or their courage to not conform to one). The stories are short and long and hilarious and unnerving and all of the things in between. They need to be heard, and they need to be heard not just by those of us who have catalogues of the same; they need to be heard by those who don’t normally listen. We think we found the way.

Click for more information or email Jamie Newton  


 

 FAQs

 

 How long should it be?

Stories can be anywhere between a few sentences and a few pages.​

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 Who can submit?

We welcome women of all ages, backgrounds, bodies, and degrees of gender conformity.​

 

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 Does it have to be about something a guy said or did to me?

 

Nope. Stories need not involve interactions with men or anyone else for that matter; they can simply be about you. The only criteria: stories must be true.​

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 Will people know it's me?

Short answer: no.


Longer answer: some of the stories you have to tell involve seriously personal information. For that reason and many others, we care deeply about handling them respectfully and carefully. Whether you submit anonymously using the submission form below or send your story confidentially via e-mail, we make sure your name stays private. That means we'll never give it to readers, audience members, or anyone else. We do not include any identifying information in the (re)telling of your story. Only the information you provide in the story can possibly identify you. That being said, if you want to change names to protect your or other's identities, feel free to do so.


Should you choose to fill out your name and contact info, we'd love to send you a thank you.​

4

 Can I just send you a screenshot of ________?

We love screenshots of written exchanges (text messages, e-mails, social media threads, etc.). Unfortunately, we can't take uploads through the submission form below though, so submit those via e-mail.​

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 How do I submit?

You can submit by:


e-mail jamienewton@thatswhatshesaidco.org (confidential)

online submission (anonymous)

in-person interview (see below)​

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 I'm sure I have a story. BS happens because I'm a woman all the time. I just don't know how to put my finger on it and type it out as a story.

You can always schedule to chat with one of our team members. We do one-on-one interviews. We also gather groups once a month to discuss gendered-experiences. Folks often say that getting together, talking, and listening to others often helps them express their stories.


To schedule, e-mail jamienewton@thatswhatshesaidco.org​

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